Purim and Parenting
The Secret of the Hamantash
By Aron Moss
Why do we eat hamantashen on Purim? I have heard that they are the
same shape as Haman’s hat. But Haman was the man who wanted to
wipe us out. Why would we immortalize him by eating cookies that
bear his name?
This may be a case of mistaken identity. These Purim cakes were
originally called mohntashen, which means “poppy-seed pockets.”
Today mosthamantashen are filled with jam, but poppy seed used
to be the more popular filling. It was a short linguistic jump from
mohntashen to hamantashen, as people assumed there was a
connection between the food eaten on Purim and the villain of the
The real reason for eating hamantashen is that they symbolize the very nature of the Purim miracle. If you read the story of Purim, you notice that it was a string of seeming coincidences that saved the Jewish people from annihilation. There were no open miracles, no seas split, no plagues, just some twists and turns of history that, when viewed as separate events, seemed quite natural. Only at the end of the story was it revealed that a miracle had occurred.
Jews can always find a food to tell a story. In this case, it is the hamantash. The outside of the hamantash is just plain dough. The true flavor is concealed inside. Beyond the very ordinary veneer is the heart of the hamantash, bursting with sweetness.
Our lives are much the same. At times it seems that we are being pushed and pulled by accidental forces. Things happen to us that seem haphazard and random; there seems to be no system in place, no direction to this cold and harsh universe. This is not true. There is a system. But it is hidden. Below the surface there is a sweet hand and a warm heart that directs the universe.
Rarely do we get to see this hand. Purim is one day when it was revealed, when a crack opened in the outer shell of nature and we glimpsed what lies beyond. Purim reminds us that all those coincidences are no coincidences, and nothing is random. We are still in the middle of our story, so it is hard to see the full picture. But in the end we will see that it’s all one big hamantash.
A Parenting Thought
As we enjoy the sweetness of the Hamantash this year we are reminded of all the good in our lives, truly sweet gifts from G-d.
As parents, let us forget, for just a moment, the daily grind of parenting and appreciate the sweet 'fillings' G-d has given us - our precious children.
With our sweeties in mind, we can succeed at being better parents and and will no longer view parenting as a grind.
Wishing you and your family a Happy Purim!